The Wedding Planning To-Dos Once the initial shock of being engaged wears off, you'll need to make a lot of decisions. Here are the 10 most important things you need to do to really kick off your wedding planning. Tell the parents! Traditional engagement etiquette recommends that the bride’s parents be the first to be informed of their daughter’s engagement. Tell them in person! If they live too far away, a phone call is the next-best option. Are your parents divorced? You can talk to Mom and Dad separately, but do try to tell the second parent soon after the first, to avoid bad feelings. Picking a Date The minute you get engaged, everyone will be asking for your wedding date. But in reality, you won't be able to set an exact date until other major decisions have been made. So first, have the necessary meetings and focus on determining a range of dates that will work for you. While you don't have to set a firm date now, it's smart to at least have an