Things to AVOID after getting Engaged

Things to AVOID after getting Engaged.

YIPEE! You’re now engaged, you have butterflies in you tummy, all excited ready to tell everybody.

A lot of brides tend to make the spur of the moment decision due to the excitement of being engaged. SURE, it’s time to celebrate but, wait a minute,  take time to think clearly before letting your excitement push you to making commitments and mistakes you would regret…

The big moment has finally come and you’re in a super excited mood, admiring the look and feel of a brand-new gorgeous ring on your hand and bouncing off the walls with excitement. It's time to celebrate, but wait a MINUTE and avoid mistakes from acting in the excitement of the moment.

1. Try and hold back on the excitement and ensure concrete plans are being made by both families before you start telling people, better still pick a wedding date first.

2. Don’t Start Inviting Everyone to Your Wedding

Once you do, you can’t un-invite them, you really have to be sure you want them at your wedding before inviting them. Don’t go inviting friends you haven’t seen since high school or since you graduated. Sit down, write down the list of people you have in mind, go over your list over and over again and be sure you want them at your wedding.

3. DON'T Tell Your Bridal Party You’ll Pay for All of Their Expenses

This is a common mistake made by a lot of brides though they have the best intentions but weddings do cost a lot, you as the bride would want to look your very best and you don’t know what the expenses would incur. So if a bridesmaid agrees to be in your bridal party because you told her you’d pay for her dress, shoes, hair, makeup, travel and lodging, and you later say you can’t, she’s going to be really upset and angry. So ensure each bridesmaid is able to handle their expenses.

3. DON'T Tell Parents They Can Help Plan Whatever They Want

It’s important for you and your groom to decide what you want your wedding to be like .Note what your top priorities are and then discuss with the parents. Then, you can both decide which tasks can be delegated to the parents. You want to have your wedding and not their anniversary party.

4. DON'T Promise Everything To Your People

Sit down and discuss every detail of whose family is handling what. Don’t just decide or delegate on your own. Let your groom be involved in every aspect of the decision making. Imagine how sad your groom and his relatives would be if you assigned "the good stuff" to all of your family members and friends, leaving his side to pick through whichever tasks are left. This doesn't necessarily imply that you are trying to shun his family—it's just easy to get caught up in the excitement of wedding plans.

5. DON'T Fall In Love With The First Dress You See

Yes, we all know brides who bought the first dress they tried on, but this isn’t a task to rush through. Give yourself the opportunity to have magical dress-shopping experiences with your mom or MOH. You can certainly keep that first dress you saw in the running, but there's no need to mark this task "complete" on your checklist before you've even had a chance to announce your engagement to loved ones.

6. DON’T Choose Your Vendors Out Of Sentiments                             

It’s not a must to use vendors you know for your wedding, most especially if their jobs don’t measure up to your expectation . If you go through their portfolio and you are not impressed or if they can’t provide the needed answers to your questions then it’s better to be honest and frank with them, rather than hire them and your fears prevail on the long run. It’s a day you want to remember for good, not one to bring rifts and malice or fights.

7. DONT Get Into Fights with Family Members Or In-laws

As soon as the wedding plans start there’s always a bit of pressure here or there. So try as much as possible to avoid quarrels, arguments or anything at all that could trigger words or reactions you can’t take back. Always stay calm and try and think things through before responding, some people might intentionally try to get words out of you or even insinuate things about you, but keep your cool. 

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*MOH-Maid of Honor(Chief Bridesmaid)